Have you ever heard the phrase “If you can spot it, you’ve got it”? Basically, it means that many of the thing that annoy us in other people are things that annoy us in ourselves. Things we’d rather not face.
Don’t believe me? Next time someone pisses you off, do a little soul-searching and see what you find.
I had a whole year of spotting things before I could write this post. The judgment I heard from other people, I had it in myself. The maddening, paralyzing fear in my kid- I had that, too. So I saw stuff, and I owned it and worked through it and blah blah blah… and now I have something to say.
Please go read my post on Family Circle’s Momster blog: When Your Kid Isn’t Ready for College.
JM Randolph, accidentalstepmom 
Sobering and true
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This is FANTASTIC!!!! You’re a wise woman.
Love it, JMR! If for no other reason than it gives me comfort to know there are also girls who sit around playing video games.
🙂 It is so awesome to be a parent isn’t it? xox
I’ve stopped myself in mid-sentence while talking to my son, realizing the trait I was seeing in him was one of the things I didn’t like about myself.
I just think they are too young to decide on college – my last born (but not last child … step mom here) is entering college in Sept .. she still doesn’t know what she wants to do.